Holman Headland & Abbeville Mortuaries, Inc.
Newsletter - November 2008Holidays and Grief
A holiday most often brings love, smiles, memories, family gatherings, festivities and gifts. It is a time to renew friendships, carry on traditions(or even begin some new ones), spread goodwill, set priorities and celebrate the occasion. During the holiday, hearts seem lighter; spirits are brighter; and there is an overall feeling of happiness and joy. How then, does the grieving individual endure the holidays?
Grief on a day to day basis is extremely difficult to handle, but grief at a holiday is overwhelming to even the strongest of persons. Death comes to all ages and often comes suddenly and unexpectedly. Death is final to a person's life on earth. With death, comes grief. Grief, by definiton, is sorrow; deep mental anguish over a loss. It is normal to grieve following a death. It is normal to have questions and to have a wide array of emotions including anger, frustration, fear, sadness and loneliness.
Even though accepting the death of a loved one seems impossible and even though you may desire to skip the holidays, you must deal with reality. Life goes on after death. Holidays and special occasions will continue. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to face the holidays after your loved one's death. With your determination and with the love and support of your family and friends, you will get through each holiday and special occasion. After each holiday, you will be a stronger individual. Never forget your loved one and the memories. Face the future one day at a time, believe in yourself and have faith and you will be able to face the challenges of life.
The Holman Family and the staff would like to wish the families we have served and also the communities in which we serve a Blessed and Safe Holiday Season.